Best Polyamory & ENM Dating Apps (2026)
The best polyamorous dating apps in 2026 are Feeld for most poly and ENM people, solo or partnered, and OkCupid if you want a much bigger pool with a real non-monogamous filter. Couples who date together should look at 3Fun, people who want a poly-only space at helloPOLY (formerly PolyFinda) or Plura, and queer women and nonbinary daters at HER. Below: what each one costs on the US App Store, how partner linking works, and the privacy traps worth knowing before you pay.
The best polyamorous dating apps at a glance
Ratings come from my reviews of each app, based on public pricing, features, safety tools, app store reputation and value, not on a lab test of every feature. App store figures were checked in October 2026.
| App | Best for | Couples | Free version | My rating |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Feeld | Poly, ENM and kink-curious adults | Link up to 5 partners | Browse, connect and chat | 4 / 5 |
| OkCupid | A large pool with a non-monogamous filter | One person per profile | Match and message | 4 / 5 |
| helloPOLY | Poly-only community, kink and rope filters | Individual profiles | Browse and filter, capped likes | 3 / 5 |
| 3Fun | Couples dating together | Shared couple account, group chat | Messaging with matches | 3 / 5 |
| HER | Queer women and nonbinary people | Individual profiles | Core features | 4 / 5 |
| Plura | Meeting people at real events | Individual profiles | Events and matching | Not reviewed yet |
| #Open | ENM-first design (see the store warning below) | Solo and partnered profiles | Not verifiable now | 3.5 / 5 |
Which app fits how you date
The question that matters most is not “which app is poly-friendly” but how you date: alone, with a partner’s knowledge, or as a couple looking together. Each app handles that differently, and some ban the setup another app is built for.
- You are single and poly or ENM: Feeld plus OkCupid. Feeld is where the poly crowd already is; OkCupid adds volume and filters out monogamous people for you.
- You are partnered and date on your own: Feeld, with your partners linked so people see your structure up front. OkCupid works too, as long as your profile says you are partnered.
- You are a couple dating together: 3Fun or Feeld. OkCupid and Hinge do not allow joint profiles.
- You want a poly-only space, or community before dating: helloPOLY for a small, poly-only app, Plura for events in your city.
- You are a queer woman or nonbinary: HER, which bans unicorn hunting outright.
Our picks, ranked
1. Feeld: the default app for poly and ENM dating
Feeld, run by Feeld Ltd, is built for open-minded and non-monogamous dating. Its help center lists more than 30 “desires” you can tag on a profile, ENM among them, plus relationship types, genders and sexualities, and you can tap any term for a definition. The standout for poly people is the Constellation: you can link your profile with up to 5 partners, who appear on your profile while each of you keeps your own photos, bio and chats. Linking is free; Feeld’s free membership also covers browsing, connecting and chatting.
Reputation is split by platform. On the App Store Feeld has 4.3 stars from about 101,600 ratings; on Google Play it has 3.1 stars from 57K reviews and 5M+ downloads, both checked October 2026. Majestic, the paid tier, costs $29.99 for 30 days, and adds “who likes you”, incognito, private photos and one free Ping a day. My Feeld review rates it 4 out of 5. Download it from the Feeld website.
2. OkCupid: the biggest pool with a real non-monogamy filter
OkCupid is a mainstream app (owned by Match Group) that takes non-monogamy seriously. Its non-monogamy help page sets three rules: one person per profile, no couple or joint profiles; if you set your profile to non-monogamous, you will see only people who are non-monogamous or open to it; and dating outside your relationship without your partner’s consent, or without disclosing it, gets your profile banned. If you are married or partnered, OkCupid only lets you set your relationship type to non-monogamous.
That filter is the reason to use it: you get a large user base (50M+ downloads on Google Play, 4.3 stars from about 289,200 ratings on the App Store) without monogamous people in your feed. My OkCupid review covers the free tier, which lets you match and message.
3. helloPOLY (formerly PolyFinda): poly-only, small but active
helloPOLY is the app once called PolyFinda, run by Polyamorous Pty Ltd in Melbourne. Everyone on it is poly, ENM or curious, and its filters let you show or hide monogamous, kinky and shibari profiles. It has 4.2 stars from only 277 ratings on the App Store and 100K+ downloads on Google Play, which tells you how small it is next to Feeld. Premium is $29.99 a month or $39.99 for three months. The full breakdown, including the rebrand and the user-base question outside Australia, is in my helloPOLY review.
4. 3Fun: for couples who date together
3Fun is built for couples and singles looking for each other. Its App Store listing describes one synced couple account, group chats you can invite a partner into, free private messaging with matches, private photos only matches can see, hidden distance and photo verification. It has 4.4 stars from about 150,200 ratings. VIP starts at $29.99 a month ($39.99 for three months). It leans toward threesomes and swinging more than long-term polyamory, so it suits couples who play together better than solo poly people. Read the 3Fun review or visit 3Fun.
5. HER: for queer women and nonbinary poly people
HER is a queer dating and community app run by Bloomer Inc. Its polyamory page describes relationship-style options on profiles, a non-monogamous community feed, and a “zero tolerance policy” for relationship shaming, fetishization and unicorn hunting. Core features are free, and the App Store listing says Premium starts at $14.99 a month (4.4 stars from about 65,400 ratings). See the HER review.
6. Plura (formerly Bloom): events first, swiping second
Plura, run by Together Project, Inc., says on its App Store listing that it lists about 1,000 events a month from local communities (parties, workshops, munches, picnics), shows who is going, and lets you match before or after. It is for queer and alternative people who would rather meet in a room than in a chat. It has 4.6 stars from about 2,000 ratings. Plura+ costs $24.99 a month, $47.99 for three months or $71.99 for six, and adds “who likes you” and event discounts. Its value depends entirely on how many events run in your city, so check the event list before paying.
7. #Open: check the store before you count on it
#Open was built for non-monogamy, with solo and partnered profiles, and my #Open review rated it 3.5 out of 5 in August 2026. But in October 2026, the App Store and Google Play links on hashtagopen.com both led to no listing: the App Store returned no app in the US, UK, Canada, Australia or Germany, and the Google Play page returned “not found”. The website itself now talks about a club network for swingers and the poly-curious across the US and Canada. Many lists still name #Open as a top poly app; until it is back in the stores, I would not plan around it, and I would not pay for anything tied to it.
Mainstream apps: Bumble, Hinge and Tinder
Mainstream apps give you more people, but fewer of them are poly, and their rules can work against you:
- Bumble added “ethical non-monogamy” as a dating intention badge, and its announcement says you can show two intentions on your profile. Its help center also mentions filtering to people whose intentions match yours.
- Hinge has a help article for polyamorous daters: only one person can appear on a profile, so use one solo photo of yourself, no solo photos of your partners, avoid “we” statements, and mention your partners in your Dating Intentions and prompts.
- Tinder is the app forum regulars on the polyamory.com thread in this search describe as having many bots and few poly people. Use it only as a volume add-on.
For queer poly dating beyond HER, Taimi (4.4 stars from about 214,600 ratings on the App Store) is a larger LGBTQ+ app; my LGBTQ+ dating sites page ranks the rest.
Solo, partnered or as a couple: the linking rules
This is where most poly daters get caught out. The rules, from each app’s own help pages in October 2026:
| App | Couple account | Link partners | Paid features for partners |
|---|---|---|---|
| Feeld | No, one profile each | Yes, up to 5, free | Each partner needs their own Majestic; incognito covers linked partners |
| 3Fun | Yes, synced couple account | Group chat with partner | One VIP |
| OkCupid | Banned | No; mention partners in your essay | Per person |
| Hinge | Banned (one person per profile) | No; mention partners in prompts | Per person |
Two Feeld details worth knowing. There is no couples plan: Feeld’s help page says both of you must upgrade to use Majestic, except incognito, which automatically hides your linked partners from the same people. And if you connect with someone and want to meet their partner, Feeld’s help center says your connection opens a group chat for the three of you, where you share profile links.
If you are a couple looking for a third, read the room. The forum thread in this search has a single woman saying she mostly gets likes from couples despite stating she is not interested, and HER bans unicorn hunting. Give the new person equal say, say up front whether you date together or separately, and do not treat a single as an add-on to your relationship. If you mostly want to play together, the swinger dating sites are a better fit than poly apps.
What polyamorous dating apps cost
Every app here is free to download. These are the paid plans listed on each app’s US App Store page. Prices checked October 2026.
| App and plan | 1 month | Longer plans | Source |
|---|---|---|---|
| Feeld Majestic | $29.99 (30 days) | $49.99 for 90 days, $149.99 a year | App Store |
| 3Fun VIP | $29.99 | $39.99 for 3 months | App Store |
| helloPOLY Premium | $29.99 | $39.99 for 3 months | App Store |
| Plura+ | $24.99 | $47.99 for 3 months, $71.99 for 6 | App Store |
| HER Premium | From $14.99 | Platinum items from $19.99 to $31.99 | App Store |
| Poly: Black & Dating | $14.99 (Love), $24.99 (Abundance) | Not listed | App Store |
| OkCupid Premium | $7.99 to $59.99 listed, plan lengths not labeled | App Store | |
One correction to what you may have read: Google’s AI answer for this search puts Feeld Majestic at “around $11.99/mo”. The App Store lists $29.99 for 30 days; only the yearly plan comes close, at $149.99, about $12.50 a month, paid up front. Feeld also sells Pings separately ($2.99 for one, $20.99 for ten) and a 24-hour Uplift boost for $9.99.
Are there free polyamorous dating apps? Yes, in the sense that you can date without paying. Feeld’s free tier lets you connect, chat and link partners; OkCupid lets you match and message; 3Fun’s listing says messaging with matches is free; HER’s core features are free. What you pay for is mostly seeing who liked you, privacy (incognito, private photos) and visibility. For more options, see my free dating sites guide.
Cancelling, and the privacy catch when you stop paying
All these plans renew automatically through Apple or Google, and only you can cancel them, in your store subscriptions. Two details the lists skip:
- Feeld: its cancellation article suggests cancelling at least 48 hours before the next payment and warns that when Majestic ends, your private photos stop being private and become visible to all members. On incognito, Feeld’s own pages disagree: the cancellation article says your profile becomes visible to everyone, while the incognito article says it becomes “hidden”. If you are not out to everyone, remove sensitive private photos and deactivate or check your profile before the paid period ends.
- 3Fun: its App Store listing says “no cancellation of the current subscription is allowed during active subscription period”. Turning off auto-renewal stops the next charge, but you will not get the current month back.
Niche poly sites to approach with care
Two of the top results for this search are the apps’ own websites, and they deserve a closer look:
- Polyamory Date (polyamorydate.com) calls itself the largest polyamory dating site. Its terms of use are those of Various, Inc., the company behind Adult FriendFinder, and say your content may be searchable on other websites run by the company or its affiliates, with paid subscriptions renewing automatically. In other words, it is a doorway into a large adult network, not a separate poly community. Fine if that is what you want; know it before you upload photos.
- Poly: Black & Dating describes itself as the first app built for the Black polyamorous community. The idea fills a real gap, but on the App Store it has 2.9 stars from only 17 ratings, and its last update was January 14, 2026. Try it free alongside Feeld; my Black dating sites page covers the larger Black dating apps.
And if what you want is a partner who does not know, that is not polyamory: it is an affair, and OkCupid bans it. Those sites are covered separately in affair dating sites.
How to write a poly profile that gets the right replies
Every app here rewards the same thing: saying your structure plainly, early. A good poly profile covers:
- your structure in one line (“Polyamorous, with a nesting partner of five years”);
- whether you date independently, together, or both;
- what you are available for, and what you are not (no secrecy, no “unicorn” setups);
- whether your partners know and how they appear (Feeld link, a mention in your prompts);
- your time reality: one evening a week is useful information.
Before the first date, talk through sexual health (testing, barriers) and any agreements that affect the new person, such as sleepovers or veto. On Feeld, OkCupid and Hinge alike, the help pages put the burden of disclosure on you.
Safety: verification, privacy and scams
Poly daters often have more to protect: partners, kids, jobs, people who are not out. What the apps offer:
- Photo verification: Feeld’s is optional and matches a live selfie with a profile photo through its partner Veriff, without asking for ID, according to its help center. 3Fun also advertises verified photos.
- Privacy tools: Feeld’s trust and safety page lists screenshot protection for images in chats, expiring photos and an optional blur for unsolicited nude images. Incognito (Feeld, HER) hides you from everyone you have not liked.
- Scams: the FTC warns about people who move you off the app fast, cannot meet in person, then ask for money, gift cards, wire transfers or crypto. Never send money to someone you have not met. Report them in the app and at ReportFraud.ftc.gov.
Meet in a public place first, tell a friend where you are going, and do a short video call before meeting anyone who will not verify.
Poly terms you will see on profiles
- ENM: ethical non-monogamy, the umbrella for polyamory, open relationships and swinging. Feeld and Bumble both use it as a label.
- GGG: “good, giving, and game”, one of the desires listed in Feeld’s help center: someone who wants to be a generous, open partner.
- Cowboying (or cowgirling): dating a poly person while hoping to “rope” them into monogamy. Worth naming in your profile if it has happened to you.
- The 100 mile rule: an informal agreement some couples make that their usual rules relax when one of them is more than 100 miles from home. It is a house rule, not a poly norm, so ask anyone who mentions it what it means for you.
- The 72 hour rule: not a standard poly term. People use it for different personal agreements, usually a waiting period before intimacy with someone new. If it shows up in a profile, ask.
- Unicorn: a single, usually bisexual woman a couple wants to date together. Many queer spaces, HER included, push back on “unicorn hunting”.
The downsides of dating apps for poly people
Poly-only apps are small, so you may run out of profiles fast outside big cities; that is why pairing Feeld with OkCupid works. Couple profiles tend to outnumber singles on couple-friendly apps, which wears singles down. Mainstream apps are full of people who skim past “ENM”, so state it in the first line. And privacy depends on paying: on Feeld, incognito and private photos stop when Majestic does. Use the free tiers for a week or two, check how many active people are near you, and only then pay for one month. If kink is part of the picture, my BDSM and kink dating sites page and FetLife review cover the communities built for that.