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    Fetster Review

    User Rating 3 / 5
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    If you've followed my dating site reviews you know I've tried everything, but I wanted to get a feel for what sites like Fetster had to offer on the kinky side of things. 👀 I will say, Fetster was certainly different from previous dating sites I explored.

    What is Fetster and who is it for?

    Fetster describes themselves as "a BDSM, Kink and alternative dating site" followed by a lengthy list of things they're not. They really laid it all out right up front. It's also partly focused on being a place for people to learn about different kinks and the community!

    But how legit is Fetster?

    There weren't a lot of security measures during signup, but Fetster urges you to report suspicious profiles. For every spam profile, I found way more legit ones.

    The tl;dr on Fetster.com

    • Tons of options to tell people exactly what you're looking for
    • The site feels legit despite some other reviews disagreeing
    • X-rated pics without warning! Similar to OutPersonals
    • Looks outdated but features work
    • No Hot or Not game — more focused on matching

    How to delete: Go to "Edit Profile" and scroll to the bottom for the delete button.

    Is Fetster free? 100% free! No paid option at all!

    Privacy: Go to "My Preferences" and change permissions under Privacy tab — Everyone, My Friends, or Only Me.

    Verification: Follow steps under "Verified Users" in the top navigation to get a verified marker.

    Is there a Fetster app?

    No Fetster app. Seems to be a theme with kink dating sites!

    What's the sign up process like?

    Super easy! One long sign up page broken into sections: accept cookies, location (typed not dropdown — weird!), email/password/name/gender (lots of inclusive options), sexuality/identity/relationship status, who you're seeking, what you're here for, referral source, physical details, legal stuff, profile pic, and CAPTCHA. No email verification needed — they manually verify accounts in about 15 minutes.

    How does Fetster work once logged in?

    Super simple. Change privacy settings, check out featured profiles, browse who's online/nearby. Started getting messages pretty fast!

    What are the Fetster search options like?

    For a basic free site, really impressive! Search by recently active, featured, ethnicity, age, gender, sexuality, kinks/fetishes/lifestyles, username, and all profile fields.

    What are Fetster profiles like?

    Simple — view all info they put in, block, add as friend, send messages, view pics.

    Is Fetster free? For real?

    Yes!! All features free: create profile, search, send messages, check out venues, view events, join groups, post anonymous "Confessions," learn about BDSM, watch videos/pics from members.

    What sets Fetster apart?

    • Seriously completely free
    • Welcoming to BDSM newcomers
    • Very detailed search options
    • Groups, confessions, events, and advice areas

    Pros and cons

    What I liked

    • Extensive search filter options
    • Entirely FREE
    • Verified profile badges for safety
    • Inclusive and welcoming

    What I didn't like

    • No Hot or Not game or interactive features
    • No warning before x-rated pics
    • Outdated site design
    • Free = questions about data usage
    • Slow initial messaging

    Final thoughts

    Fetster felt like an inclusive place to start for kinky dating. It's not a seedy back-alley dating site — it's a place for people with similar interests to meet. An easy sign-up process and being completely free makes this a win! Hopefully they update the site over time. 😈

    Pros & Cons
    100% completely free — no paid tier at all
    Very detailed search filters
    Verified profiles option for safety
    Inclusive and welcoming to BDSM newcomers
    Extensive privacy controls for profile visibility
    No Hot or Not game or interactive features
    X-rated pics without warning
    Outdated site design and feel
    No Fetster mobile app available
    Slow initial messaging activity

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