📝Who is the HER dating app for?
The HER dating app is very inclusive and for women who identify as bisexual, lesbian, queer, or pansexual. While the HER app is used mostly for dating, you can still join if you're looking for just a friend or haven't come out yet. It's also great for those who travel a lot and are looking to check out the queer scene in other locations safely.
Is the HER app legit for the queer community?
When I went to download the HER app from the Apple Store, I noticed it received an amazing 4.4 out of 5 star rating from 45,699 reviews! If that's not legit enough for you, I don't know what is! Buttt, if you do need some more convincing, then there are several success stories on their website, and there’s also a whole section dedicated to how to meet someone safely in person.
Worth mentioning that HER was built by queer women, for queer women, so the company ethos and what they created is from within the community, and not outside of it. Safety, comfort and inclusivity are huge parts of the app experience from the language used, to the events, to the groups you can join. So is HER legit? Yes, imo.
The TL;DR on Weareher.com
HER has been around for a decade since launching in September 2013. I had never heard of HER until now, so I was happy to see it’s been thriving since then! Since it’s likely new to you, too, I wanted to spill some tea on all things HER
Is there a desktop version?
Nope! You can only access it via mobile app. More on that later.
How do I delete HER account?
Here's how to delete your HER account for good:
- Go to your profile
- Click on the gear icon
- Tap on privacy options
- Click on "delete my account and data"
Can I pause my HER account?
If you may have found the one, or just need a break, you can def put your Weareher.com account on hold. They let you go into “Incognito Mode” so you’re not visible, plus if you’re inactive for a period of time, they just hide your profile for you.
What is a pride pin?
It's a way to show more of who you are! You can choose from several different ones such as Kinky, T4T, Pillow Princess, and Lipstick Lez. Can I just say how much I loooove this?
Does HER have verified profiles?
Yes! This feels like a given. If you want to verify your profile, you can go into Settings and click “Verify Profile.”
Is there a HER app to use?
Def! Actually, it's the only way to use HER. There's no desktop version, but who still uses the desktop anyway? You can download it for iOS or Android.
So, how do I sign up for HER dating?
Signing up for the HER App is super easy! Here's how to get started:
You have a few different ways to sign up for the HER app such as: Apple, Facebook, phone, or Insta. Once I picked my poison (phone), I entered my phone # and had to confirm it was me by entering a code.
I'm loving how the HER dating app combines multiple questions in one! The signup process is similar to how Pink Cupid does it, and it's just a super smart time saver. I'm all about it! Here, it asked me my name, birthday and email addy.
Next up, adding some pics! You’re required to add at least 3, but 6 is encouraged and also the most popular option! I dig the little tips they add in case you're not sure which pics to choose, also.
Next up, I'm asked what my pronouns are…can't remember if this is the only time I've seen this q, but I do know that I learned what ze/hir/hirs means. Kudos to inclusivity!
Next, I’m asked to choose my sexual identity. For those just starting to explore their sexuality, there's a link you can click to give you a dictionary-type meaning of each.
Almost done! But first I need to select my gender identity.
Now I get to dive into my relationship status. I like all the options for my relationship status so that I could be completely honest. BTW, I can skip most of these questions if I don't want to answer.
Then it asked me what I was looking for. I like how the HER app gives me plenty of options compared to some other dating sites,
Next up, one of the typical questions…what's my height?
The HER dating app has some really unique interests to choose from which I appreciate! You never see things like “Witchy Stuff” or “Nerding Out.”I also like their play on words with gaming! The icons were great, too. We love a good emoji.
I don't usually come across the pet question much – the first time was PinkCupid I think, so this is a fun surprise. I was LOLing at the "tons of cats" option!
It lets you choose your astrological sign. Hopefully the stars align and give me a good match!
The next three questions ask if I drink, smoke cigarettes, or use cannabis. I won't post all the pics to save time, and besides, you get the idea.
Now I get to write a lil’ bio about myself. Hmm….what to say…
The final steps are deciding whether I want notifications or not, sharing my location, and then finally reading HER’s policy and terms of service. Once I agree, I'm taken to a giant ad which is confusing because every time I swipe to get rid of it, it takes me to the sponsor's site.
I also can't take any pictures because of the main feed cuz I tried and a pop-up message appeared telling me I can't take pics due to safety reasons. Which I get, but I was ONLY taking a pic of the ad. Still, it's great to know how safe this app really is. Trust me when I say the feed is pretty tho.
What's the search capabilities like for Her?
Tbh, one thing I didn’t like is you aren’t able to search as a free user (at least none that I could find). I checked some HER reviews and found out that there are filters once you level up your subscription to Gold or Premium. Here are some filters you get access to when you pay (there's a lot more that I didn't list!):
- Gender identity
- Star sign
- Relationship status
- Last online
Is the HER dating app free to use?
Yes it is, but there are limits (obvi!) and annoying giant ads (UGH!). If you want to explore the app, you can definitely download it, join and browse around. You just can’t do as much as you can on other dating apps
HER app review of free vs. paid features
While exploring the free version of this app, it had me wondering what do you get when you pay up? So…naturally I did some exploring, and here's what I found.
HER free account features
Before I got curious about what the paying side was like, I did a lot of browsing for free. Here's what I could (and couldn't do) for absolutely NOTHING:
- I could see who liked me and could match with them.
- Message those who liked me.
- Check out communities and post on the feed.
- Attend events (tho you have to pay extra $$ to get tickets).
- I was unable to remove ads, discover new people (without them liking me first), or see who was online.
- Decorate your profile with a badge.
HER paid subscription features (Gold, Platinum)
Unfortunately, I couldn't take a pic of the paid tiers here due to the app not allowing screenshots. This kinda cramps my HER dating app review style, but what can ya do?
There are two payment tiers for Her: gold and platinum. Here's the breakdown of each:
HER Gold subscription
The pricing options are,
With the Her Gold tier, you have access to 6 premium features:
- Advanced filters.
- See who viewed you.
- Change your location.
- No ads (YAY!)
- Rewind a person you passed on.
- Go incognito and keep your profile hidden while you check others out.
HER Platinum subscription
The pricing options are,
The Her Platinum tier is pretty expensive, but you get double the features than what the Her Gold tier provides. Besides everything in the Gold tier, you also get:
- Check out who's nearby.
- 💦Thirst mode: a boost that shows your profile ahead of others with a gold border!! Look who's fancy now!
- Unlimited swipes.
- Read receipts.
- See who's online now.
- See who liked you.
What sets the HER app apart from the rest?
There's a lot to explore on the HER app, but these are some of the things that stood out to me about it:
- Built by queer women: no one wants to use a queer app built by someone who truly doesn’t understand the challenges the community faces, so this was a huge plus.
- You can connect your Spotify account to show your fave hits and artists! If you bond over music, this is amazing. You can tell a lot about a person by their playlist, amiright?
- Account verification to limit the scammers.
- Go incognito (paying members only) so you can check others out while your profile remains hidden.
- Participate in communities. These are sub-topics where you can post and share interests with other members.
- Flair! Similar to Reddit and other platforms, the Pride Pin lets you show off a little bit about yourself visually.
- Huge emphasis on safety, to the point where you can’t take screenshots of the main feed!
Pros and cons of HER dating app
There's plenty to like about Her, but what's not to like? Let's get into the nitty-gritty.
What I loooved about the Her app
HER had a lot to like, but since everyone's different, I'll tell ya what I liked specifically:
- Being able to message people who liked me.
- Using a Pride Pin to show more of who I am.
- Viewing and making comments in different communities.
- Being able to attend events like speed dating, Bi Awareness chat, and discussions.
- How straightforward everything was when using it. I really wish I could have shown you screenshots but, safety first.
What I didn't like about Her app
Here's what I wasn't so crazy about Her:
- GIANT ads…
- Not being able to see anyone else except those that liked me.
- Out of the 6 people I messaged, only 1 wrote me back (personal problem, I know, but gotta throw this in)
- Expensive compared to other dating sites.
Final thoughts on my HER review
I was really excited to dive into this app and see what HER was all about. After using a lot of other dating apps that had inclusive sexuality options, exploring one that was in the LGBTQ+ space was a completely different experience! From a safety standpoint, I also felt like I was free to be myself without worrying about negativity or wondering if I fit into the community.
On top of that, I loved being able to message people and join different communities to meet more people from various walks of life and interests. Also worth pointing out that there were tons of attractive people, and the few convos I had were a blast. I’m def gonna keep using the HER app to see who else I can connect with.